Repair Your Relationship
A clear 3-phase process that helps you see each other differently, change the pattern at home, and build a foundation for the future.
When the Relationship Starts to Feel Broken
If you’re stuck in the same arguments, blame, defensiveness, shutdown, resentment, you’re not alone. Many couples reach a point where the relationship starts to feel broken, or like it is drifting farther from what you both wanted. When conflict repeats long enough, each partner can get locked into a story about the other, and everything gets filtered through that lens. Couples counseling helps you get unstuck from that cycle, so you can see each other differently and stop repeating the same fights.
This is for you if…
You’re feeling unheard or dismissed
You’re having the same fight, just different details
Your communication feels like combat
Testimonials
“When we came in for a relationship tune up, the intake clarified our goals and we started communicating better.”
“Professional, insightful, and asked the right questions.”
Reviews can be verified on Google and ZocDoc pages.
A Simple, 3-Phase Plan
Stop the spiral (reduce blame and negativity)
First we slow things down. When blame and defensiveness take over, nothing lands and everything gets worse. We focus on the moments where it goes off the rails, so conversations stop turning into damage.
Change what happens during conflict (behavior change)
Once the spiral slows, we focus on what actually changes the relationship: different moves in the moment. We test practical interventions, what to say, what to do, what to stop doing, until you find what reliably shifts your pattern and makes repair possible.
Keep Progress From Disappearing (relapse prevention)
Old patterns resurface under stress. We build a plan for how to catch it early, repair faster, and get back on track before the old cycle takes over again.
What Sessions Are Like
Early Sessions: Change the Meaning, Not Just The Words
In the beginning, I want to hear how conflict actually plays out. You will talk about the problem, and I’ll pay close attention to where the blaming and negativity show up and how each of you is making sense of the other. A lot of couples get stuck because the story has become too final, like “they are just selfish” or “they do not care.” When the story turns your partner into a villain, there is no clear path forward.
In early sessions, we focus on changing the way the conflict is understood, so it becomes something you can work with. As the story becomes clearer and less blaming, you get unstuck and the relationship has room to change.
Later Sessions: A Clearer Plan and Real-World Practice
As the cycle calms down, the work becomes more planful. We pick specific behavior changes to practice, test them in real life, then adjust so it is achievable and effective. If you slip back into blame or escalation, we return to the earlier work as needed. This is normal. The goal is progress that holds under stress, not perfection.
Testimonials
“My husband and I sought some couples counseling. After a really inspiring intake with Adam himself we were paired with Katherine and she has been our rock. Our relationship rough spots have been smoothed out beautifully and we will continue our session gratefully.”
“Adam’s a really special therapist. He genuinely cares and goes the extra mile to ensure that his clients step into lasting change. He is kind, reliable, insightful and dedicated. I give him my highest recommendation and am so grateful for his help!”
“Adam is above all a wonderful person, who truly cares about improving the life of his patients. I am so glad I found Adam: he is a rare gem, an incredibly smart and approachable person. If you are lucky enough to work with him, I am certain you'll see rapid improvements, whatever your goals may be. I highly recommend Adam's practice.”
“I appreciate all the help Adam gave me. Adam is supportive, but he did not let me wallow in my own pain. I appreciate that about him it's so easy for me to get lost in myself. He has a forward way of thinking which helped me get out of my rut.”
“As you know I really saw an improvement in my life after working together. Working with you helped me to develop self-awareness and also improved me as a person and in the way I relate with others.”
Reviews can be verified on Google and ZocDoc pages.
About My Approach
I’m trained in Functional Family Therapy, a structured family systems model focused on reducing negativity and building behavior change. In couples work, I focus on what keeps you stuck and what actually changes the dynamic in real life: shifting the story you are telling about each other, changing the moves that fuel conflict, and building reliable repair.
I bring extensive experience treating anxiety and panic, and I’m EMDR-trained, which can be helpful when trauma or heightened threat responses show up in relationships. When useful, I draw from CBT and ACT-informed tools as well, especially for managing anxiety, reactivity, and stuck thought patterns during conflict.
Credentials
Licensed in New York and New Jersey
Educated at Columbia University
Working with couples since 2014
Training includes Functional Family Therapy, EMDR, and Gestalt psychotherapy
Why It’s Hard to Fix it On Your Own
When you are inside the conflict, it is hard to see it clearly. In the moment, you are reacting to protect yourself, to be heard, or to stop feeling blamed. The problem is that those protective reactions can pull you into the same cycle again and again.
Couples counseling gives you a structured way to slow the cycle down, step back, and see what is actually happening between you. Over time, that makes it easier to change what happens in the moment and to repair faster when things go sideways.
Getting help is not about blaming anyone. It is about interrupting the cycle before it becomes the default setting.
FAQ
How do we start?
Start by scheduling a couples consultation. This is a brief call to hear what is going on, answer your questions, and make sure I am the right fit for what you need. If we decide to move forward, most couples begin with two individual intake sessions, one with each partner. That helps me understand the cycle from both sides and do a thorough fit and safety check. After that, we shift into joint couples sessions. If your needs or schedule are a better fit with another clinician in the practice, I can discuss options during the consultation.
Is couples counseling a good fit for our situation?
Couples counseling works best when the space is safe and both partners can speak openly. Here is a quick guide:
Best fit: Both partners can speak openly and want a path forward.
Not appropriate: Intimidation or fear, physical violence, coercive control, or credible threats.
May require additional steps: Active substance misuse, a current affair, or another major destabilizer. We will discuss how to proceed during the consultation and/or intake.
Is the consultation a therapy session?
No. The consultation is a brief fit call. If we move forward, the work begins in the intake sessions.
Do you have a no secrets policy?
Yes. Couples work functions best when the therapy room is not split into sides. If you share something privately that is important to the relationship, we will make a plan to bring it into the work together. Logistical messages are fine. Relationship relevant information cannot be held as an ongoing secret.
Can I contact you privately between sessions?
You can message me for logistics and scheduling. If you want to share relationship relevant information privately, assume we will need to bring it into the next session in a constructive way. The goal is to avoid triangulation and keep the work transparent.
How long does couples counseling take?
It depends on how intense the cycle is and how long it has been going on. Many couples notice progress once escalation decreases and repair becomes more consistent. We’ll clarify goals early and keep the work focused.
What if one of us wants this more than the other?
That’s common. We start by making sessions productive and reducing the spiral, so the work can move forward even when hope levels are mismatched.
“Adam’s a really special therapist. He genuinely cares and goes the extra mile to ensure that his clients step into lasting change.”
Ready to Get Unstuck?
If you’re tired of the same fight repeating and you want a clear process to reduce blame, change what happens during conflict, and rebuild repair, schedule a couples consultation.